Changing Places Toilets Campaign – And House of commons

On Wednesday 24th June was a massive stepping stone was made for the changing places toilets campaign a new bill has PASSED the 1st round in the house of Commons.

How did this happen.

A Ten Minute Rule Bill on changing places toilets was introduced by Paula Sherriff MP who did an amazing speech about the importance of this changing places toilet, over 1/4 million disabled people and families are unable to use a standard Disabled toilet which is leaving them isolated at home this Is happening increasing more and more this does included myself.img_1758

As much a I feel very privilege that my story was among a few others like 11yr old Adam who you might of read and seen on the news recently, he’s taking legal action against his local theme park, Flambards, in Helston, Cornwall.

It’s these stories that are so vital to show how incredibly important these changing place toilets are.

This is a great quote from Adams mum Rachel

“Do you just go to places expecting your toilet needs to be met?

Why shouldn’t disabled people expect the same?”

And how right is that quote, how many of you reading this right now really think about when your walking out the door whether or not your going to limit what you drink or your time out just incase the toilet isn’t big enough or equipped for your needs?? 

I’m guessing none, if you’re not Disabled or have a family member that’s Disabled you wouldn’t and that’s ok I’m not expecting everyone to know how important these changing place toilets are this is why this campaign is so important to so many of us like myself, 11yr old Adam and his mum Rachel (blog) Ordinary Hopes’ and 7yr old Alfie and his mum Mandy (Facebook page) ‘Don’t pass the buck’

The Bill

The Bill would require certain buildings to provide Changing Places toilets This would be a huge step forward for the campaign as current regulations do not place any mandatory duties on buildings to provide Changing Places toilets.

To read the full transcript that Paula Sherriff MP read on Wednesday click the link you can see below:

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Changing Places toilets are very different to a standard disabled toilets they have been designed for the purpose of meeting the needs of people with complex needs like;

  • A height-adjustable adult-sized changing bench.
  • A tracking hoist system or mobile hoist.
  • Adequate space in the changing area for the disabled person and up to two careers.
  • A centrally placed toilet with room either side.
  • A screen or curtain for privacy; a wide tear-off paper roll to cover the bench.
  • A large waste bin for disposable pads.
  • A non-slip floor.

To date here are only 1,123 Changing Places toilets in the UK with some areas that don’t have a facility within an hour’s drive, that’s leaving many Disabled people and their families either confined to staying at home, watching how much they drink when their out or rushing home because the call nature is too much, sometimes even having to face the embarrassment of having an accident, then being changed on the dirty floors of public toilets. No one should have to go though anything like that, not even me!

There are thousands with Neuromuscular conditions in the UK help us make a difference, Help us to make the difference that’s needed to thousands. 

Kerry x

The next reading will be 23rd November 2018.

If you’d like to watch the 10 minute bill reading for Changing Places here’s the video:

Test driving the Robotic arms

I’d never heard of the neater arm supports or the neater eater before, so was super excited but a little nervous at the same time as arm strength isn’t as good as it was a few years back, but me being me I’m always up for trying anything once (within reason of course not about to sign myself up for disco dancing!!) Just to see if these arm supports worked for me.

Becoming the bionic woman.

Definitely felt like I was suiting up to become a new Avenger not sure what my super power would be!?  But I’m sure it would be pretty cool.

The motor to move the arms normally sit behind you as the motor is fixed to the back of your wheelchair running off your wheelchair batteries, but for demonstration reasons that obviously can’t be done (that is of course fixed to your wheelchair if you choose to get them permanently) so what I can only call a small scaffolding is erected behind you so the motor can sits nicely acting like it is fixed to the back of your wheelchair. 

My arms where then placed into a black sling, to stop my elbow slipping out the bottom there’s a round rubber horse shoe shape (surprisingly very comfortable and you don’t feel it’s there).

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Then when your feeling comfortable your arm are strapped so they don’t go flying as your moving your arms around (good job really as mine definitely have a mind of their own most days).

As my left arm is my strongest I started with that arm as if the neater arm support didn’t work with my strongest arm it definitely wasn’t with my right arm being that’s pretty dormant as an arm goes. 

Plugged in a ready to go your given a round white button it’s not that big and can be held in either left or right hand again with the thinking that my right arm not the strongest, my right hand would be better to try just to see how tough it would be to push the button. 

The way the button works is holding the button down once your arms go up when you have them at the position right for you stop holding the button down, then when you push the button again your arms go down – I was pleasantly surprised the button was very easy to use no pressure really needed to push. 

When my elbow was half way well in line with my boobs, I was then give some basic movements to do which I’m sure you can guess my arm hadn’t done in a years.

  • Try moving my arm towards me 
  • Try moving my arm out 
  • Touching my nose 
  • Pushing my elbow out 

After about 10 minutes I’d say of swing back and forth my muscles and shoulder had warmed up and I was for the first time in many year able to touch my own nose and put a spoon to my mouth (soup is possibly not a good idea as swinging my arm I’d end up wearing more and still hungry!) 

Now to give my weakest arm a go, same as before with my left arm for my right am put into the sling and strapping, I was ready to see how much movement I could do, obviously wasn’t expecting my right arm to do as much as my left but I was pleasantly surprised just how much movement my right arm actually had, after a few swinging of my shoulders with both arms my left arm was definitely doing a little more work than my right which I expected, I was given some more movements to try out with both arms together.

  • Forward Punching (my husband was scared at this movement!!)
  • Push my arms out to my side (remind me of I must I must improve my bust!!)
  • Swing my shoulders together
  • Touching my nose 

Your arms have a weightless feeling as you’re in the neater arm support like there floating, after your finish and your arms are taken out they do feel a little heavy but that feeling goes after 10ish minutes I’m guessing that also depends on the person as well.

Final thoughts

It definitely surprised me when I found out that neater.co.uk had been around for 25 years, so why with all the professionals i see had no one thought to mention these before now, something I think that needs to change when theses arms are possibility life changing for people like me to have the use of their arms again and also that little bit more independence!

Information 

The powered Neater Mobile Arm Support enables people like me with muscular Dystrophy and other disabilities with muscle weakness to use their arms, it has a unique power drive system which provides power assistance for you, you need very little movement or ability to use the mobile arm supports as the system negates gravity and effortlessly lifts the arms to a functional position.

Muscular Dystrophy

We are able to offer a number of possible solutions to clients with muscular dystrophy. Our most popular is our powered mobile arm support which enables users with this condition the independence to carry out a range of activities with their arms. In addition we offer the electronic programmable Neater Eater and the Neater powered drinker

Physical benefits

  • Large movement range reduces development of joint contractures
  • Arm supports helps maintain strength
  • Reduces development of postural deformities

Psychological benefits

  • Less dependence on careers
  • Encourages social interaction
  • Helps maintain dignity
  • Promotes engagement in activities and mealtimes

 

If your interested they do offer a FREE home assessments in the UK only, You are able to apply for funding.

Kerry x

I miss

I miss long walks though the country side. Running my hands though the long grass as I’m walking though a field. 

I miss dipping my feet in the sea and jumping coz its cold, feeling the sand in-between my toes.

I miss sitting on the floor crossing my legs together, being able to sit on one leg having that dead leg feeling after you’ve sat on it to long.

I miss brushing my hair.

I miss having a bath, putting my foot into steaming hot water knowing it’s far to hot because my foot is now red, taking my time getting in inch by inch putting my body into the bath saying out loud ‘ouch to hot’ but still doing it anyway.

I miss standing in the rain arms wide open spinning around and around with the rain hitting my face.

I miss laying on the ground looking up seeing the clouds go by, feeling free to get up when you want. 

I MISS 

 

It’s funny the little things you miss sometimes, I haven’t really thought about it for a while until now just because it’s been so long, the crazy thing is you sometimes don’t miss what you haven’t got anymore then other times on a beautiful evening like this evening the simplest thing like taking a walk as the sun sets for the day.

Would I change anything yes totally I’d be lying if I said no but being disabled has opened my mind and changed how I look at the world, what some people don’t see I now see, what some people take for granted I don’t ‘and yes I for sure I took a lot of things for granted when I wasn’t in my wheelchair.

Kerry x

My travel Tips as a wheelchair users for going abroad.

Traveling as a wheelchair user comes with its many obstacles, we have to be somewhat cautious with our wheelchairs as theses are essentially our legs, this doesn’t mean that we can’t have fun and immerse ourselves in different cultures; we just have to get a bit creative with how we do things at times. As a powered wheelchair user I’ve learned many tips along the way, If you are a wheelchair user and new to traveling, here are some travel tips for wheelchair users that will hopefully make your next getaway a little easier.

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1. Have a packing list

Have you ever had that nagging feeling that you forgot to pack something? It can cause a lot of tension especially when you’re just about to board the aeroplane and being a wheelchair user if you’ve not packed vital equipment you need.

So to clear all doubts, write a list of things you need to pack. Make sure you write your packing list at least 4 days before packing. This will then give you enough time to figure out if you need to write anything else on your list, It will also prevent you from packing in a rush too, your packing list can be the last thing you keep in your bag so as to give you a chance to double-check everything before leaving the house.

 

2, Wheelchair charger.

When our traveling in your own powered wheelchair it’s always a good idea to pack your wheelchair charger in your hand luggage, you can of course pack it in your suitcase but unfortunately suitcases can go missing all the time, so to be saver rather than stuck without your Wheelchair on holiday.

 

3. Small Tool bag.

Unfortunately not everyone takes care for your wheelchair or understands that if a wheel comes lose or they un-bolt the back it can render you with no legs essentially. 

When I say tools that doesn’t mean packing the tool box; a few Allen keys (always check behind the back cushion as some powered wheelchairs already have an Allen key clipped into the back board). A small spanner can also come in handy plus a few spare cable for the controller wires.

If your wheelchair is equipped with pneumatic tires, bring along a small repair kit containing the items necessary to change a flat. Bicycle repair shops have all types of nifty, compact, repair kits you can bring along.

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 4. Wheelchair health check,

It’s always a good idea to make sure your wheelchair is in good working order before you leave home, If your chair hasn’t been serviced recently, send it to a repair shop or give wheelchair services a call for a general check over. This extra effort can save the heartache of suffering a breakdown overseas; save the time wasted trying to locate a repair shop and save the time wasted waiting for the repair.

 

5. Research.

This tip kind of ties with the tools tips, research wheelchair repair shops in the area your staying before you go, things can always go wrong on any trip whether you’re in a wheelchair or not. By being adequately prepared and researching repair shops where your staying before leaving home, you’ll be quickly covered in case anything should happen to your wheelchair, this will save you precious vacation time and allow you to sightseeing instead of researching online at your hotel. 

 

Extra Tip: Blue Badges are recognised in all European countries, it allows you to make use of the same parking concessions as the country’s own citizens with disability, parking concessions for Blue Badge holders can differ from country to country so make sure you check out the local rules: also make sure it’s in date.

http://www.fiadisabledtravellers.com

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Hopefully these five tips will make traveling as a wheelchair user a little easier for you, and give you an idea as to what to expect. Now, get out there and start exploring! 

A great quote fI found by Saint Augustine says, “The world is a book and those who do not travel, read only a page.”

Kerry x

15 things I’ve been asked as a Disabled person.

If you don’t know me I’m quite a sarcastic/witty person thats always the first to take the Micky out of myself (I.e blonde and disabled you have no hope!!) 

So when it comes to things people say to me I’ve never got my wheels in a twist over it.  

I’ve been wheelchair depended for around 10 years now, so i’ve heard some good, bad and ones where i want to run over your feet comments!! 

So, here is 15 things you probably shouldn’t think before you say it to a disabled person!

I’ll start with a great classic that I’m sure every disabled person has heard and most of you able-bodied people have said!!

  1. I’m sorry you’re disabled!

I’m not, I’m used to it and the only reason we’re probably talking about it instead of eating caking, and taking about how long we have to wait for the new season of Game of Thrones to start – is probably because I’ve been asked a specific question about my disability, I’m happy to explain but there’s no need to apologize! If I’m talking about it openly.

Plus I know the first thing that probably popped out was ‘i’m sorry’ but have you really thought why your sorry!?

It’s ok not to be it wasn’t your fault it’s one of those things.

  1. You are an inspiration!

Now this one I generally find very awkward but I’ll always say thank you, I started the day the same way as everyone else (well kind of I have help!) got up and sat on the loo!

I’ve not won an Olympic gold medal or cured world hunger, Just because I have a disability doesn’t mean that I’m constantly overcoming adversity. Sometimes I’m just collecting food in my boobs!!

  1. My cousin (boyfriend, friend neighbors knows someone who’s disabled. Do you know them??

Contrary to popular belief, nope we don’t all know each other, funnily there’s no disabled phone book I can just pick up or a secret club!! 

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  1. Let me help you with that!

Actually, that’s fine! Sometimes everyone needs a little help once in a while, Just don’t assume help is needed unless it’s asked for. There’s a big difference between offering a helping hand, and taking over.

  1. It’s so good to see you out and about!

Many people assume that it is a mammoth struggle for people with a disability to even leave the house, or that they’re not capable of leading an active, social, interesting life, but for most people with a disability, this couldn’t be further from the truth!

Now it might be like a check list of have we got everything except the kitchen sink before I leave the house but I do see the big wide world outside my front door.

  1. How do you go to the toilet?

It’s always amazes me out of all the questions someone could ask the first one that pops to mind is my toliet activity?! 

Well I will openly tell everyone my thrown is way better than yours (with a very big grin on my face!!) it’s got a remote control, odour control (obviously for the roses smells as I’m a lady!!), dryer. And when I’m out if I can’t find a changing places toliet then I wait for my all singing all dancing toliet!

  1. You be careful you don’t get a speeding ticket!

So far in my NHS 5mph powered wheelchair, I’ve been pretty lucky to out run and avoid getting pulled over!!

but then it’s not me you need to watch out for it the cute looking oldies in their scooters, I’m not about to race them the little speed demons that they are!!

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  1. Were you in a car accident?

My general sarcastic answer is my body doesn’t like me then follow with I have a muscle wasting disorder. 

Why Is it that most able-bodied people think that you have automatically had a car crash to end up in a wheelchair?!

  1. Did you know you have a disability?

Nope! I just thought I’d start rolling around in a pimped-out wheelchair for fun plus thought I was just fashion-forward. (Wait for Wednesdays, i pull the black trousers to colour co-ordinate!).

  1. I know how you feel 

This comment gets the eye roll every time, unless you have Muscular Dystrophy or any other disability I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t know how it felt to be me!

I once had someone tell me they had to wear a sling for 3 weeks as they weren’t allowed to use there arm they now understand how it is to just be able to use one arm all the time, Ok then!! 

  1. H-E-L-L-O! HOWWWW ARE YOUUU?

The childlike language (makes me laugh every time plus I’ll be very naughty and make you repeat just for my entertainment), while others pump up the volume or start talking really s-l-o-w-l-y. However, even if the person you’re talking to has a hearing impairment, neither of these things actually help. sorry, but it’s true!

  1. It’s all in Your Head

Uh, yes your so right it’s in my head it’s definitely telling my arms and legs to move but my body is laughing at me saying I don’t think so!! 

(This is definitely one I joke about)

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  1. Can you have sex?

Yep sure can, disabled people aren’t anti sexual crazy in know!! Plus you never thought outside the box before.

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  1. Do you have a licence to drive that thing?

Nope, and if you ask my husband he’ll happily say the way she drives you might wish she had, because it would probably come from a Christmas cracker!!  

Keep your feet safe!!

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Person on a wheelchair moves quickly. Illustration of a funny cartoon style
  1. Yes, we’re wheelchair accessible. There are just a few stairs.

Yes I tell you no lies this has been said a few times now! it is mostly people who work at restaurants, event spaces, shops, online travel agents etc. Common sense people If something has stairs, it is not wheelchair accessible. Just be honest and upfront with the information.

That concludes my 15 things I’ve been asked as a Disabled person, I hope you’ve laughed at them like I do… because well what do we have if we don’t laugh things off.

Kerry x

Housing crisis

As you would have seen in the news reports over the last week it’s suddenly dawned on the able-bodied world that there is a massive shortage in suitable housing for disabled people. Unfortunately this isn’t as much of a surprise to us that are disabled we have known this for years. 

It’s been called the hidden crisis and our lives are to expensive in the news, why is it such a secret!? who knows’ when you have programmes such as DIY SOS on BBC 1 that have been clearly showing for year just how unsuitable and unaccessible some people’s properties can be.

And no it’s not cheap to be disabled who ever thinks or thought it was YOUR CRAZY!. For example when I changed my toilet to make my life more independent that was over £3000 and that just for a toliet so no it’s not cheap!! 

The unfortunate truth is councils will tell you even if you are disabled if your under the age of 65 you don’t fit “OUR” criteria needs to get a bungalow, this needs to change sooner rather than later, why as a Disabled person do you need to be over 65 to get a bungalow!? 

I faced this exact problem over 9 years ago, for 3 years solid I was constantly being told I was too young for a bungalow, I called Milton Keynes council persistently every week from 3 years telling them my flat was unsuitable for my needs, unable to use my wheelchair inside to move around I was a prisoner in my own home I wasn’t living I was just existing in one room - my mental health and well-being suffered greatly I was on antidepressants and becoming less sociable as time went on. I asked the same question every time ‘can I have a bungalow’ to receive the same answer over and over your to young.

Thankfully the last 6 years I’ve been in a purposely built bungalow for disabled people but not though my local council housing but though a housing Association called habinteg, that provide suitable properties (houses and bungalows) for disabled people/families.

I can’t believe that even after 6 years of being in a suitable property I’m reading and speaking to people who are getting the same answers I did when I was looking and asking for a more accessible place to live 9 years ago, how have local authorities not moved on!? it very much makes me believe that disabled people are a forgotten world. 

 Just having the appropriate housing can dramatically improve disabled people’s ability to live independently, those whose homes do meet their accessibility needs have reported improved health and wellbeing, just having the right adaptations to the home can create significant savings to the public purse, reducing social care costs for local authorities and health costs for the NHS is this not a good thing?.

A few facts

In England, only seven percent of housing meets the minimum standards, all local authorities across England, Scotland and Wales have failed to collect data or meet current demands, let alone plan for the future, this is a huge concern as the number of disabled people is increasing: an estimated 13.3 million in Britain in 2016, up from 11.9 million in 2013 to 2014.

Muscular Dystrophy UK did a survey and found that a third of people are facing serious debt and financial hardship, trying to fund getting adaptations to their homes  to fit the needs of loved ones or themselves, that’s a staggering 70% of people living in homes that didn’t suit their needs, for example homes in which it is impossible to turn a wheelchair limiting their access to bedrooms and bathrooms and leaving them confined to one floor!

What needs to be done

  • All local authorities to scrap the age bracket on any available bungalows for disabled people and families. 
  • Increase what’s available to households through the Disabled Facilities Grant, ensuring that this rises in line with inflation
  • All Local authorities to ensure any new developments that at least 10% of houses build to have the Lifetime Home Standard I.e a standard for accessible home-built to wheelchair-accessible standards.
  • All local authorities should have policies that provide discretionary top up payments in cases where families cannot afford additional costs.
  • Local authorities to provide increased specialist disability advice and advocacy services for housing options.
  • Local authorities to work with the NHS to ensure people living in institutional and residential care are supported to live independently.
  • For national and local governments to  improve the way that data is collected and shared, both on the requirements of disabled people and on the accessibility of existing housing stock.

Are you disabled or have a family member in an unsuitable property facing this housing crisis share your story in the comments with me.

Kerry x

 

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The Disabled Blogger Tag

I’d like to start by thanking a fellow Muscular Dystrophy suffer and new friend simplyEmma.co.uk for tagging me in her blog ‘The Disabled Blogger Tag’ Emma is at the top of her game being the UK’s top travel + disability blogger.

‘The Disabled Blogger Tag’ was created by Elin from My Blurred World it’s an amazing idea to start a tag just for Disabled Bloggers just to see the Different Worlds of disabilities!

1. When and why did you start your blog?

I started blogging in 2016 very late to the world of blogging I feel, i’d though about it many years ago but just brushed it off probably out of nerves thinking no one would read or find me remotely interesting just a crazy blonde in a wheelchair jabbering on about absolutely nothing!

 

2. Did you intend to talk about your disability online from the beginning?

Yes and No I started with the intention of talking about my love for Aloe Vera (my little side business) and how I wanted to stop taking from over the counter and high street branded products to change to using a more natural free from chemicals products.

3. Have you ever been sceptical about talking about your disability online?

Yes definitely which is funny in a way as I’m very vocal and up front when I’m talking to people about Muscular Dystrophy over the phone or face to face! But that comes from facing some nasty backlash just from a game that went horribly wrong when I did an online event a few years back, I had private messages saying 

‘You should have been killed at birth’

‘Your a waste of space’

‘Disabled people shouldn’t have the right to breathe the same air as everyone else’    

That’s just a few of what I got, it did affect me mentally for a while I just couldn’t understand why people would be so horrible to any human being over a small private online game where you won a toothgel. Crazy!! 

 

4. What kind of response have you/do you receive in terms of your disability-related blog posts?

The responses I’ve got are always positive and supportive which is so lovely, no just online offline as well from family and friends that I wasn’t even aware they read my blog, it’s always heart warming plus I’m so appreciative for every like, comment or a passing great job and to know I’ve helped just one person is the greatest feeling.    

5. Do you write/talk about other topics apart from your disability?

Yes I’m a bit mixed I find still trying to find my feet I think, you’ll find a few aloe Vera, changing places, and one about my sperm donor (sorry I mean my father!!) 

6. What steps do you take to make your blog accessible to yourself as well as other people?

I have everything I need for me on my iPhone and Samsung tablet just makes life  easier for me, and making it acceptable for others I do make sure the writing is darker but I definitely need to improve on that as well so finding ways and getting other Disabled Bloggers advice I think I need to do as I’d like to make it available to everyone. 

7. What is your favourite thing about blogging about your disability?

I have so many bits I love about blogging having my own small space of the internet, it can also be like my own therapy session sometimes!

Meeting others either in the same situation as me or with different disabilities some are starting to become friends which is great, Having an opportunity to raise awareness about disability changing people’s minds they have of a stereotypical disabled person.

8. What are your top three disability-related blog posts that you’ve ever published?

Difficult one to answer but ive picked my top three.

9. Do you think that the disabled blogger/YouTube community is overlooked?

Unfortunately, Yes totally I feel sometimes it’s treated with kid gloves or a private club no one else wants or can’t join!

It’s definitely lacking in recognition from the blogging world same as YouTube, which is unfortunate as its frowning rapidly and the level of support within the disability world is incredible. 

10. Do you find it difficult to think of new disability-related content to publish?

In the beginning yes, for sure that was down to not wanting to ram in everyone’s faces about my disability plus nerves of my writing skills, as ive grown more confident within my writing I’m finding it a little easier, not saying that I don’t get a mental block every now and then, I also want to write something that people would be interested in reading, I’m very open for ideas from others so send away! 

11. Do you think blogging about your disability helps to change people’s perceptions?

I truly hope that blogging about my disability has changed people’s perspiration about disabled people and the stereotypical view some people have, it’s never going to change overnight as we have such a lack of disabilities in the public eye, it’s growing slowly but surely and hopefully as we see more disabled people this will help people’s minds to grow as well.  

12. Who do you tag? 

it would be amazing if Ailsa, Chris, Lucy,  Leah, Emma could answer the questions, I want to thank Emma again for tagging me ive thoroughly enjoyed doing this and loved reading everyone’s blogs, cant wait to read everyone else.                                                                                                                                                           

                                                                                              

Should I share!?

If you didn’t already know mental health awareness week is coming up 14th-20th May (in the uk)

I sometimes wonder if me sharing my world is a good idea!? Does anyone really want to know the ins and outs of my life no matter how good or bad, but then do I sit in silent!?

I didn’t start blogging for attention or sympathy or just because I was bored but to write my feeling down no matter how good or bad they are. Kind of like my own therapy session.

So here I am on a day where my depression has the better of me sitting on my own crying just because, I don’t know’

where I feel my words mean nothing no matter how much I try to speak it’s all wrong, where my feeling don’t mean anything to anyone but myself.

Finding myself stuck in my own body and mind, old childhood feeling creeping in, feelings of abandonment because I’m not good enough as a person. Being misunderstood because understanding even what goes on around my head is hard enough.

Fighting a body that doesn’t want to work how I want it to, missing a life I once had, asking the question out loud ‘WHY ME’ but getting no answer back.

Feeling like a burden, wanting to scream but nothing comes out but silence, closing my eyes and feeling sadness.

Not understanding the ‘why’ like I’m a child again, not being able to get my head around my own thoughts. Telling myself your better than this stop it.

Not liking the person I see looking back at me in the mirror because she’s Snappy, moody, unhappy, scared, confused, ashamed, lonely. The black darkness has taken over my mind.

Behind every smile you see is a smile fighting everyday to keep that smile from cracking as it has right now! Behind every positive thing I do or say is me fighting to keep that happy bubbly person from breaking.

Depression

Isn’t a swear word it’s real, it’s here, it’s not going away, it’s always looming in the background you just can’t see it all the time.

it can sometimes be a battle of good and bad everyday. But for every bad day I have these days I have more greater days.

This is me laying it bare for you all to read,

Kerry x

Facts on mental health

• 1 in 4 Adults and 1 in 10 children in the UK will experience mental health in any given year.

• Mental health can strike at anytime.

• It can affect anyone from all walks of life.

• Can affect  their ability to sustain relationships, work or getting though the day.

• It’s  estimated that only a quarter of people with mental health problems in the UK receive ongoing treatment.

You don’t have to have a disability like me, depression can affect any walks of life

Don’t live in silence speak to someone your GP, close friend or family member.

Samaritans day or night on 116123